Just ask...

The Universe will give you whatever you ask for. But are you really asking? Or do you just think you are...?

THE STORY

Every day, I hear at least one of the following (or something similar) from my kids:

Mom, I'm hungry/thirsty.
My (body part) hurts.
I can't open this/get this knot out/or some other task.
I can't see (eg., the TV).
He's bugging/hitting/kissing/annoying me.

Do you hear the same things?

My answers typically sound like this:

So? (or And?)
That's terrible.
I'm sorry to hear it.
What do you think you should do about it?

Now, before you present me with the "Worst Mother of the Year" award for not getting them any food, drink, bandaids, etc., let me point out that in these examples, they never actually asked me for anything! All they did was state the situation. Why should I be expected to solve it?

My children somehow think that if they complain about something, it will miraculously get resolved. By answering as I do, I am teaching them a valuable life lesson.

You see, what I want to hear them say is:

Mom, can I have something to eat/drink, please?
Can you look at this/get me a bandaid/give me a kiss, please?
Can I have some help, please?
Would you move out of my way, please?
Please stop.

What I am teaching them is to stop complaining about what's wrong and ask for it to be different.

THE LESSON

You really can have what you want. But you must ask for it.

How much time do you spend complaining about something you don't like, without ever asking (God, the Universe, your spouse, your children, or whatever) for something else? See if you hear yourself saying these things:

I'm too busy.
No one likes me.
I can't afford it.
Everyone says no.

What to do? Well, you can start by asking. Just ask for it to be different. You are in charge of your life--so be in charge of it.

Would you like a million dollars? Ask for it. Would you like a new home? Ask for it. Would you like a healthy, satisfying relationship? Ask for it.

My grandfather used to say, "You'll never know unless you ask."

TAKE ACTION

Are you frustrated with the results you are getting in some area of your life? Take action!

Today's action step: Pick one thing you really want, and ask for it!

Many people spend so much time dealing with what they have, that they have forgotten what they really want. Is that you? If so, spend a few solitary minutes--in the shower, if you have to!--and begin to think about what you'd really like in some area of your life: your body, your relationships, your home, your financial condition, etc.

Pick one thing and really concentrate on it. What does it look like, feel like, sound like? Be as specific as possible. What does it feel like to have it? Once you have hit on exactly the thing, just ask for it. If you have a faith tradition, include it in prayer form. If you don't, you don't need to address anyone in particular, just say "Please send me..." and fill in as many details as you can. (And kids, be sure to say "thank you" at the end of your request!)

Jesus said, "What man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?..How much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?" (Matt 7:9-11)

Just like you give your children what they ask for, so the Universe will give it to you.

So what do you want? Just ask.

© 2008, Margie Remmers, http://www.YouCanHaveWhatYouWant.com/

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