Lesson 20: New Beliefs (Part 5, Final)

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Last week I spent a great deal of time talking about this powerful lesson in Beyond Freedom and how I had had so many recent experiences with it.

I left off in Thursday's post talking about the different ways to change our beliefs--how some are easier to do than others, and that while most can be changed on our own, some, I believe, require professional help.

I had a personal experience with this very thing recently, and I hesitate to share it because it is, in fact, VERY personal and this blog is, obviously, VERY public. But, when I started this blog two years ago, I made a commitment to be open, honest, and transparent. I wrote:

In this journal, I am publishing to the world the deepest, most intimate parts of what makes up me--both the good and the stuff that needs to be gotten rid of. It will mention people who have had a major impact on me, and they may not like what they read. It will mention events that have shaped who I am and who I am becoming, and the people involved may or may not agree with my recollection of details or my interpretation of them. It will be like I am on my very own reality show.

Whew--I feel like I am falling just thinking about it! But, as I have recently learned, that is the true test of walking by faith.

So this is me. Being real. Being honest. Being vulnerable.

A few months ago, a friend of mine suggested I read the book The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. Though it is about sexual conquests, my friend suggested that it would provide valuable insights into the world of human psychology and that that understanding would help me improve my success in business. I thought it would be a good book to read on my upcoming vacation, so I picked up a copy.

The first section of the book provides a historical look at some of the great seducers in history (Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe, Casanova, etc.) and their varying styles and methods. The idea is that while you are reading this section, one of the styles will "resonate" with you--the one that is most like you. Then the rest of the book will help you perfect your particular style.

While at first as I read the book, I instantly saw the parallels to business, I very quickly developed a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. A limiting belief in my life surfaced that was so strong and so powerful that I doubted I could overcome it. I was plunged into a deep depression as scenes from my life flashed before my eyes.

I shrank from what was staring me in the face: no one has ever been attracted to me and no one ever would be.

Example after example appeared before me. All the times I had "tried" to attract someone (as they described in the book) and failed. All the times I had tried to "start over" and become a different person. Heartache after heartache when it didn't happen--despite doing the exact same things I saw others doing.

Now I understood why I had been unsuccessful in business--clients weren't attracted to me.

Now I understood why I have struggled to lose weight--the belief that no matter how skinny I got or how great I looked, people still wouldn't be attracted to me.

It seemed painfully obvious and clear--there was something innately unattractive about me. I doubted I could overcome it. I might as well stop my entrepreneurial efforts--I will never be successful. I might as well stop trying to look good--even if I do, it won't do me any good. I might as well go back to my small life, my small dreams, and my unsatisfying relationships. It's innate. It was born in me. I'll never change. Quit now.

Those were my thoughts in the depths of my despair, and no amount of persuasion could make me see it otherwise--no amount of pointing out the times when people were attracted me could help me shake this pathetic feeling.

But I could not believe that it was impossible to change. If I believe, and I do, that I am a child of God, a being of light and energy, endowed with all the power that He has and capable of all that he is capable of; if I believe Jesus, and I do, when he said that we are capable of works even greater than what he has done (John 14:12), then I can do anything--including change whatever it is that is causing me to somehow be unattractive.

After all, if I could not change, how could I ever tell others that they can? If I could not change, then every battered woman must stay in violent relationships. Every child born into poverty must stay there. Every homeless person must remain homeless.

No, I HAD to believe that it was possible to change--for me, and for everyone else. But how? This belief was so strong and deep rooted, that I saw it as a thick black tar that was permeating my spirit and my life. How do I remove something so sticky that has been accumulating for so many years?

Just then, I received an email from my friend and energy healer, Amy Flynn, with the title, "Are You In Prison?" In it she described how limiting beliefs keep us back from achieving all we are capable of. I knew immediately that she would be able to help me, but I never dreamed how deeply transforming the session would be.

I immediately contacted Amy and told her my sob story. I was shocked to learn that she believed I could be completely healed in one 90 minute session. "She just doesn't get it," I thought. "She doesn't understand how profound this belief is--how deep, how dark, how oppressive."

But I believed in her. I had had positive experiences with her money reiki healings, I had connected with her on other topics that we have discussed over the last couple of years, I understood that I was causing this reality and that she would be able to provide guidance in helping me see through it. But most importantly, I believe that there are no coincidences, and that when the Universe provides you with answers to a question you are seeking, you must act. There was a reason that her email arrived in my inbox at the precise moment that it did.

Well, our session took quite a bit longer than 90 minutes. I was shocked to hang up the phone and discover that we had talked for three hours!!! She wasn't kidding when she said she would stay with me until she felt the issue was resolved. What a difference from traditional "therapists" who only work with a client until "the time is up"--and resolution? Ha! I could have been in therapy for YEARS without resolving anything. It seems almost magical that one night could completely clear it up--simply by shedding light on something I had been keeping in the dark.

But I'm getting ahead of myself.

To my surprise, my session with Amy was more like childhood regression therapy--taking a look back at things that have happened in the past. And I will admit that it felt strange to be looking back at my childhood at a time I don't actually remember. She started by asking me about when I was three, and since I don't remember when I was three, I felt like I was making it up--bringing to life pictures from a photo album. But even so, what it reaveled to me was profound.

Though not specifically related to my issue of attraction, I received a powerful insight from that first "visit," so I want to mention it briefly here.

As I mentioned, she asked me to remember when I was three, and so I pictured what I know about the house that I lived in and brought to life a picture from Christmas long ago. My younger brother and I were playing with our new toys by the Christmas tree. Soon, I noticed the older neighbor kids were playing in our front yard. I went outside to watch them--the adult Margie noticing that I was very independent...I didn't ask permission and just went.

I went outside and they were laughing and playing, and I just sat on the sidelines watching and wanting so badly to play with them, but feeling like I couldn't.

Amy kept asking me why I wasn't playing with them--did they say you couldn't? No, I said, I just feel like I can't--but I want to so badly. They're having so much fun. I want to, but I can't.

This vision was a profoundly moving and insightful experience for me. It reflected exactly what I was feeling at that moment in my life: I am a strong and independent woman. I do what I want without having to ask permission of anyone. I see people all around me who are having fun, living the life of their dreams, swimming in money--and yet something is holding me back. My desire is so strong, but for some reason I feel like I can't join in, even though no one has told me that I can't.

Over time, we eventually did get to the core issue. We came across an experience that happened when I eight years old--a time when my mother yelled at one of my classmates and made her cry. Though I remembered the event clearly, I never really thought that it was all that significant in my life. But Amy asked me a profound and piercing question. "What DECISIONS has little 8-year old Margie made about herself? What does she believe at this moment?"

Instantly, I knew the answer. It was something I hadn't thought for over 30 years, but indeed used to plague me: "People always get hurt around me," I said.

Later in the session, this theme would repeat itself: "People always get hurt around me."

When the regression portion of our session was over, Amy asked me, "Margie, can you see how the hurt that people experienced in these situations was a result of their own actions?" Yes, I said. "And can you see how having an underlying belief that people always get hurt around you would cause you to send a beacon out to the world--'Stay away, stay away'?" Yes. "And can you see that people in your life have just been responding to that signal?" Oh, yes!

"Margie," she said, "I want you to think of two people that you have inspired and empowered just by being a part of their life."

Got it. I instantly thought of a friend who just the previous day had sent me a lovely, personal email about how I had inspired her and blessed her life, as well as someone I had recently met who I assisted in introducing to a man she was attracted to (and who eventually asked for her phone number)--she was ecstatic and couldn't praise me enough the rest of the evening.

"Think of another."

OK, got it--another friend who I am grateful to have in my life and who I know is grateful to have me in hers.

"And another"

Got it--another friend.

"Margie, can you see how your presence in these people's lives is actually a GIFT?"

Oh, YES!

It was a powerful realization. Impossible to write in this blog. It has absolutely transformed my life.

Thanks to Amy's help and guidance, I was able to uncover the limiting belief that was buried under the limiting belief. In one night we were able not only to completely eradicate what was holding me back in my life, but to provide me with renewed energy, clarity, and purpose.

Since our session, my life has been miraculous. I view every person I meet as an opportunity to present a beautiful gift of joy and love. People are starting conversations with me--wanting to meet me and get to know me. Suddenly my inbox is filled with leads for my business. Goals that I have "said" I wanted to achieve for years (for example, remodeling my house) are actually starting to materialize around me. I feel great about my body and am starting to lose this stubborn weight.

It seems miraculous, but really, it's just another example of how damaging our limiting beliefs can be and how transforming it is to just change them.

If YOU would like to spend some time uncovering YOUR limiting beliefs at a deep and powerful level, contact Amy. She has been such a blessing in my life and to everyone on this planet who has the good fortune to know her and be touched by her connection to the profound truths she sees so clearly--all because she is plugged in to the infinite wisdom and provides a conduit for anyone who reaches out for her help. Her fees are ridiculously too low--I would have paid ten times what I did to achieve this inner peace, guidance, and direction.

To contact her and to inquire about working with her one on one, email:

amy (AT) allabout-energy.com

And be sure to visit her websites as well:
AllAbout-Energy.com
MoneyReikiHealing.com